Miss March on Our Song

“And you can tell everybody this is your song, it may be quite simple but now that it’s done…”- Elton John

Let’s talk music. Songs, specifically. More specifically, owning a song.

Yesterday I saw that HSBF changed his music preference on Facebook. I was bored, so I clicked on it to see what he changed it to. He had one song lyric written in his musical preferences, “One Boy, One Girl.” And he had it “dedicated” to his “Everything” (the current girlfriend; let’s not even delve into calling someone your “everything” today…). Yeah, that’s sweet and all, but excuse me…that was OUR song. Yes, we were sixteen, and yes a Jewish boy deemed a Christian country song as “ours” and yes, the song is horrific, but he REUSED a song for another girl (I had deemed our song to be You Are the Sunshine Of My Life by Stevie Wonder.) Does his current girlfriend know that he reused the song on her? My guess is going to be no. It’s sort of lame though, when you think about it. A “song” is supposed to represent two people and their love for each other and he’s reusing a song from one relationship to the next; not that our relationship was so deep or mature, but the song represented something he chose just for me, in that time in our lives.

Admiral Adama and I had a song, You Make Me Feel So Young which is ironic, because we were young when we met; but, we also brought out the really goofy, childish side, in each other, so I guess that’s why it sort of “represented us.” I mean, after three years together, we had a lot of songs, but that one was the one that I’ll always associate with him specifically.

MusicTeach gave us a song too, For Once In My Life. Maybe this is my problem: I’m letting the men pick the songs that represent us. Maybe I should start picking the music that will be the soundtrack to our relationship. Background music, in a movie, is such an important part of the whole story, almost like another character dictating the theme of the movie; I should be picking the background music, theme music, etc. Not the men, but me. I know what I want, so I should be making the playlist to my life, not letting men give me songs only to have them marred and forever scared when the relationship ends.

What songs have you “owned” with men you’ve been with? Have you ever had a guy write a song for you?


3 responses to “Miss March on Our Song

  1. i refuse to have “songs” with people because I don’t want them to ruin my enjoyment of this music when we break up. of course, when you listen to the same songs a lot while together, it will always remind you of that person whether you officialize it or not haha

  2. With JF it was “Everything” by Michael Buble, but he thought it was “Hey There Delilah” by Plain White T’s. HOWEVER, that was my song with C according to him – that and “Ruby’s Arms” by Tom Waits, and “Wagon Wheel” by Old Crowe Medicine Show. I associated “All I Need” by Mat Kearny with him.

    My song with J was “For the Longest Time,” but the way we stumbled on that is actually a really sweet story for another day…

    Needless to say, all these songs were pretty painful things to hear for a while, but that fades with time. Now I genuinely enjoy the memory rush I get when I hear each song.

    Also, this isn’t exclusive to relationships. Whenever I hear the song (get ready to laugh) “Low” by Flo-Rida or “Bleeding Love” by Leona Lewis, I am back in Berkeley, driving around with my amazing, beautiful roommates.

    It’s all in how you choose to look at it.

  3. MyGuy and i have a bunch, he used to send me extensive playlists when he was in Italy. . and i was going to post them, but then i remembered our real song, and posting the others would cheapen in. before we were together we were hanging out in his room on a rainy night and he put on this song- it was “I’m Old Fashioned” an instrumental version by John Coltrane. it brings tears to my eyes listening to it now. this song is so perfectly us because we are this old school type couple. we love brimmed hats, plays, long manhattan walks. o man, boyf’s are awesome.

    my sister and i have so many songs, and she’s the other love of my life.. we have summer songs -black water, by the doobie brothers. orange sy by alexi murdoch always reminds me of our trip out to california. and wicked way by ben taylor reminds me of the best night i ever spent with my mother and sister. the list goes on.. and on..

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