“And you can tell everybody this is your song, it may be quite simple but now that it’s done…”- Elton John
Let’s talk music. Songs, specifically. More specifically, owning a song.
Yesterday I saw that HSBF changed his music preference on Facebook. I was bored, so I clicked on it to see what he changed it to. He had one song lyric written in his musical preferences, “One Boy, One Girl.” And he had it “dedicated” to his “Everything” (the current girlfriend; let’s not even delve into calling someone your “everything” today…). Yeah, that’s sweet and all, but excuse me…that was OUR song. Yes, we were sixteen, and yes a Jewish boy deemed a Christian country song as “ours” and yes, the song is horrific, but he REUSED a song for another girl (I had deemed our song to be You Are the Sunshine Of My Life by Stevie Wonder.) Does his current girlfriend know that he reused the song on her? My guess is going to be no. It’s sort of lame though, when you think about it. A “song” is supposed to represent two people and their love for each other and he’s reusing a song from one relationship to the next; not that our relationship was so deep or mature, but the song represented something he chose just for me, in that time in our lives.
Admiral Adama and I had a song, You Make Me Feel So Young which is ironic, because we were young when we met; but, we also brought out the really goofy, childish side, in each other, so I guess that’s why it sort of “represented us.” I mean, after three years together, we had a lot of songs, but that one was the one that I’ll always associate with him specifically.
MusicTeach gave us a song too, For Once In My Life. Maybe this is my problem: I’m letting the men pick the songs that represent us. Maybe I should start picking the music that will be the soundtrack to our relationship. Background music, in a movie, is such an important part of the whole story, almost like another character dictating the theme of the movie; I should be picking the background music, theme music, etc. Not the men, but me. I know what I want, so I should be making the playlist to my life, not letting men give me songs only to have them marred and forever scared when the relationship ends.
What songs have you “owned” with men you’ve been with? Have you ever had a guy write a song for you?